Pissed

Now that is a pissed off vanilla ice cream cone. Why is it pissed off? Because there are people in an imaginary community that won't let it just melt into oblivion.

The guy who started this idiotic group blog climbed up on his soapbox (he isn't a very big person so he needs to get up there quite often) and wrote a manifesto about the rules of his community. All of this was in response to the stupid "vanilla" post. To illustrate what he think were the abuses of free speech he wrote:

'"I think you're a MORON!" Actually, you have every right, and sometimes, believe it or not, a duty, to point out to someone that they just might, perhaps, BE a moron, but to do such a thing without backing that assertion up with something substantive only demonstrates that perhaps you lack a certain amount of class. '

Is that not the perfect illustration of what a moron would write? Dude, you are a moron. And you want proof? The moron asks for proof? Read your crap. You haven't had an original idea in your life. You use that tired analogy of yelling fire in a crowded theater as an abuse of freedom of speech. God I knew some moron would say that and you proved me right.

And his head nodding toadies all praised him. And the person most offended by the ice cream wrote:

BUT i am sorry .. what i could and did see was a picture of an ice cream cone with a mouth that for all the world looked (for lack of a better word) pissed off. That picture did more to upset me than what xxx wrote. Maybe that picture was all part of his sense of humour.. but it didn't come across that way with
me.... AND ya knowww.. when called on something like that.. it is very easy to say.. "oh it was a joke and you didn't get it -shame on you"..

It was a joke. That makes you a moron, too.

It was just a joke

I want to tattoo that phrase on my forehead. Since broaching the subject of the label, "vanilla," I've been accused of attacking people's sexual lifestyles, being racist, petty (I'm not above that one), and a reactionary.

I swear I was just goofing on the term. Why do people into BDSM have to have a term for people who aren't anyway? But by asking that, I've also been accused of protesting too much because they struck a nerve.

It was just a joke.

I just had finished a post about whale vomit. Did that make me anti-mammal? Anti-perfume? Anti-anything?

It was just a joke.

You would think that if you were involved in a lifestyle where you like to either spank or be spanked that you wouldn't be so freakin' sensitive if someone smacked you verbally, but in a playful manner.

You see, if I had just written it in my own blog, no one would have blinked. But I wrote it in an "open" forum. That was like putting on sardine boxers and diving into a tank full of piranhas. Even now a few of them are still muttering about it on their own blogs. They all seemed to have left Freedom's Place for awhile. I think the rational ones may have thought about it and wondered whether they'll get gang commented if they post something that could be misconstrued.

Did I mention it was just a joke?

Blog bullies

The whole team blog thing had me aggitated all night. When I stand up for myself...or think I am standing up for myself...I get this sick feeling like I got back in grade school when a bully would confront me. So many times I fantasized about just whacking them in the head with my lunchbox, but I always walked away. Last night on the team blog, I didn't.

But it didn't make me feel that good. No matter what stand you take, people can twist into something wrong. Let me rephrase it, I'm not confident enough in it that I can't twist it into something wrong. I have this guy commenting on my post "shame on you." And I felt shame. But I don't believe what I wrote was wrong.

So I fire off salvo after salvo of words...hurtful words. Not foul words, but surgical strikes. I strike at the bully's pompeous nature. Then he calls me a "legend in my own mind." So I lob in a grenade about his lack of education and top it off with a dig about being a Heminway wannabe.

And that was it for the evening. I asked the blog administrator to remove me from the blog team and go to bed. But in the morning I'm freaked about it and wondering what the repercussions would be. They actually weren't that bad. Other blog members chimed in that neither what I had posted or the "BDSM" poster posted were attacks on anyone. But still I feel unsettled.

By standing up to the bully, have I become one?

Freedom's Place

You know, I violated all of my own rules and allowed myself to be sucked into this stupid team blog called Freedom's Place. I won't even dignify it with a link back. Suffice it to say, it made no sense. It was one more forum for the administrator to spout political crap and BDSM fantasy shit. I questioned the purpose of it and was chastised by the other members of, ironically, "Freedom's Place, a forum for free thinking."

Okay so the BDSM contingent kept referring to the "vanilla" crowd (non-BDSM people). So I have enough and write this tongue in cheek post about not calling us vanilla any more. I said call us "Cherry Garcia" for christ's sake. I ended it with "stick that in your cone and lick it."

You would have thought I spit on a crucifix. This pompeous ass (yes the same one my last post was directed at) comments about my post "missing the mark" if it was supposed to be humorous and shouldn't be posted in this forum (freedom's place, remember).

I wanted to post a big, "fuck you." But I simply said it was a joke but I did find the label "vanilla" condenscending. I said they had proved that freedom of speech wasn't one of things valued at "Freedom's Place." The asshole responded that freedom didn't mean "license."

You know, I'm tired of being civilized about things. The Hemingway wannabe and the goat herding bed pan changer (the administrator of the blog) can kiss my ass.